Thoughts Of A Mid-Life Millennials are a collection of my thoughts as I near the start of my 40s. I want to impart the lessons I learned so far to others to help them along their journey of life. This post is all about how making life decisions will disappoint someone so go ahead and make them. You can’t please everyone.
Making Life Decisions Will Disappoint Someone
For The Single People
Oh, you’re single? How old are ya? Man, you’re gettin’ old. Why haven’t you gotten married yet? Dude, I used to think like that too but then I grew up. Yeah, I’m sayin’ you haven’t grown up yet. You gotta do what everyone else does. That’s why I got married and had kids. Did I want to? Eh, it was something to do. What else would I do? Stay single like you? Nah, that makes people talk about ya behind your back. You don’t care about that? Man, you should. Are you even dating anyone right now? You’re not? You need to change that quick ‘cause everyone around you is in a relationship or married. You’re the odd man out. Yeah, I don’t know your friends but I know how people are generally. People your age are married or have a long-term partner. Fine, fine, you don’t have to listen to me. You do you, man. It’s your life.
Making life decisions will disappoint someone: In this case the married individuals who want you to join them. Maybe because they’re not happy in their marriages. Or maybe they are and they think you should get married to be happy like them. Finally, you have some people who can’t understand why some people want to stay single.
For The Married People Without Kids
Oh, you’re married? How long now? That’s nice to hear. How many children do you have? None? Well, children come when they come. It takes longer for some couples than others. You don’t want any children? Honey, we all say that in the beginning. I was adamant about not having children during the first year of my marriage. Moreso than my husband. But then I got pregnant and accepted my fate, just like the other couples I knew. How are you different? Honey, you’ll have children one day, stop fighting it. I do know what I’m talking about. If you don’t want children then why did you get married? That’s what marriage is for. What will you discus with the other couples when you hang out with them. How will you understand their troubles? Why would you want to flaunt your carefree attitude in their faces? Fine, fine, you don’t have to listen to me. You do you, young lady. It’s your life.
Making life decisions will disappoint someone: In this case the married individuals who have kids and think you should have them too. Maybe because they think marriage is for having kids. Or they can’t understand why people may not want kids of their own.
For The Married People With One Kid
Oh, you’re married with kids? Sorry, just the one kid, I see. When are you two having another? Why do I ask that? Your child needs a sibling. Why? Because your child will have a playmate. And you’ll have another child to love and raise. Remember, children are a blessing and you want to get all the blessing you can. I’m not trying to be too forward when I say this but an only child is a lonely child. How am I out of line? I think you two are the ones out of line. And unreasonable I may add. How? Because you won’t give your child a sibling. Listen to me: It’s so nice to have two children. I have two myself. Fine, fine, you don’t have to listen to me. You do you, I guess. It’s your life.
Making life decisions will disappoint someone: In this case the married individuals who have two or more kids and think you should have them too. Maybe because they think an only child is a lonely child.
For The Married People With Many Kids
Oh, you’re married with children? How many? Wow! You two have been busy. That’s quite a bunch there. May I ask why you two had so many children? No, I’m just curious. Why wouldn’t I be, or anyone else? Having that many children is abnormal these days. And it could cause problems. What type of problems? For one, it’s tough to raise that many children successfully. How can you two give them the individual attention and love they require? You use schedules, I see. Isn’t that a bit…straightforward? Nevermind. Aren’t you two tired from having to deal with all those children? I’m exhausted with mine and I only have three. You have help, I see. That’s good because other families aren’t as lucky. Now, isn’t having that many children expensive? The grocery bill must be astronomical. You use a budget, I see. You two must make a good salary, right? Oh, you two live frugally, I see. Do you get any government assistance? You don’t get that either, I see. You have to go now? Five, fine, you don’t have to listen to me. You do you. It’s your life.
Making life decisions will disappoint someone: In this case the married individuals who think having more than four kids too many. Maybe because they think having that many children is a problem for whatever reason.
For Those Getting A Divorce
Oh, you’re getting a divorce? I’m sorry to hear that. What went wrong between you two? Yes, I understand. That’s a hard situation to deal with. Did you two try couples therapy? I heard that could work. If I was in your position I would try couples therapy first because I wouldn’t want to break up my family. Isn’t that what you’re doing? Your children will have to go in between two homes. That’s disruptive, to say the least. Why are you getting mad with me? Fine, fine, you don’t have to listen to me. You do you. It’s your life.
Making life decisions will disappoint someone: In this case the people who don’t believe in divorce. Maybe they think divorce is bad because it’s against their religion. Or they think divorce is the easy way out.
For The Widows
Oh, you’re a widow? I’m sorry to hear that. How long has it been since your wife passed? That’s a long time. Are you doing well now? That’s good to hear. They say time heals all wounds. Did you two have any children? You had two. That’s nice. How old are they now? Yep, children grow up fast. Have you thought about getting remarried? Well, think about it again. Why? It would be nice for your children to have a mom. What do you mean they don’t need one? Every child does. And wouldn’t you like a wife again? I’m not being disrespectful to your late wife. I just don’t want you to be lonely. You seem like such a nice guy and you could make some lady happy, and she could do the same for you. Fine, fine, you don’t have to listen to me. You do you, sir. It’s your life.
Making life decisions will disappoint someone: In this case the people who think widows should get remarried. Especially if they have young kids.
Oh, you made a decision about your life that I didn’t make? Well, that makes me feel insecure about the decision I made for my life. So I’m going to berate you and question your decision. Even though your way of life works for you it confuses me because I’ve never heard of making a decision like that. Or I’ve seen others make that decision in the past and it ended poorly. I just don’t understand why people can’t do like everyone else does. If they did then I wouldn’t feel this way. I wouldn’t rethink my decisions. This is your fault for making me feel this way. Why can’t you do like everyone else does?
This is why making life decisions will disappoint someone. Just go ahead and live your life.